Thursday, May 31, 2012


This is how I feel about marriage. You love a lot of people. Your mother, your father, your siblings, your children, your friends. Of course, you love  your husband or your wife. But love doesn't quite do it for me. Adoration is the word for me.  Holy communion. 

We were talking about marriage tonight - ours and others. Thankfully, we were sweetly savoring the qualities of our marriage and I said, at some point, this, to Lee: "I adore you. And I feel adored. And that is it for me." I love my mother. I love my son and daughter. I love you. But I also adore you. And I am aware that I have mostly FELT adored in my relationship with Lee.

That quality of reverence is important to me.

So I looked up the etymology of ADORE. Here it is:

Adore: late 14c, aouren, “to worship, pay divine honors to, bow down before,” from O.Fr. aorer “to adore, worship, praise (10 c.) from L. adorare “speak to formally, beseech, ask in prayer,” in late Latin “to worship,” from ad- “to” + orare “speak formally, pray.”

That quality of reverence, worship is important to me in marriage.

What defines a good marriage for you????

1 comment:

  1. I love your mutual adoration description. Perfect and very much how I feel with my Ryan.
    I would add, for my own definition of a good marriage two things:
    1: Not just a willingness, but a DESIRE to communicate effectively. Ryan and I rarely have a fight that lasts more than an hour, because we talk through it until the upset is gone.
    2: Hugs. Perfect ones. I have never felt more safe, more cared for, than I do when my husband holds me.